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Tonglen is a special Buddhist practice used to grow compassion. The name comes from two Tibetan words. Tong means giving or sending. Len means receiving or taking. Because of this, some people call it "exchanging self with other."

This practice is a way to train in altruism. Altruism is when you care about others more than yourself. It helps reduce selfish attachment. It can also help people develop loving-kindness. This is a way of being kind to all living things.

In this practice, you use your breath to move feelings. You breathe in the suffering of others. Then you breathe out peace and healing. Some people use a small pause after the breath. This pause helps change the suffering into something positive. You then breathe out that positive feeling. This is like sending an antidote to a problem.

The goal is to exchange your own self for others. You do the sending and the taking one after the other.

Different teachers suggest different ways to start. Patrul Rinpoche was a teacher from the Nyingma school. He lived from 1808 to 1887. He said to start by breathing out first. You imagine sending happiness and the best things to others. Then you breathe in the suffering.

Pema Chödrön is an American nun from the year 2000. She says you can start by breathing in. Beginners might start with very small things. You could practice finding peace while doing daily chores. You might also work on harmony in your family.

Tonglen has a very long history in Tibet. It is part of a practice called Lojong. Lojong is a way of training the mind. The practice is linked to seven important points. These points come from a teacher named Atisha Dipankara Shrijnana. He was born in 982 CE.

A master named Langri Tangpa wrote these points down. He lived from 1054 to 1123. Later, Geshe Chekawa Yeshe Dorje summarized them. He lived from 1101 to 1175. His list is often called the Atisha Slogans.

This practice uses many parts of a Bodhisattva's path. These are called the Six Perfections. They include giving, ethics, and patience. They also include joyous effort, concentration, and wisdom.

Taking in suffering does not mean you must carry all the world's misery. It means you acknowledge that suffering exists. It means you accept it. This helps you find your own peace of mind. By doing this, you can help create a difference for others. It helps you work with the habits of your mind.

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